So meaningful to me

butterfliesYou know, it’s hard to figure out what to share here, and I know self promotion is rampant and I am as tired of it as you are, but sometimes I get emails from people who have found my book, #Replacement Child, and I am so moved I want to tell you all about it. Just this morning, I got this email from a woman in Ireland who found my book referenced online. This kind of email is why I wrote the book, and why I am glad I did.

Hi judy,
I have just ordered your book and can’t wait to read it.
For some reason last night when I lay in bed, I started to get upset about childhood issues. I decided to look up a child that comes after death of a sibling. Wow! One click on google and I realise something at the age of 36! I was a replacement child. I always knew my position in the family in that I came after death of a brother. But now suddenly I have an actual position that is recognised! I felt huge relief is all I can say but also amazement at how I did not realise that’s what I was , a replacement child! Feel a bit stupid too. I ordered your book and I am looking forward to reading it. I don’t feel so alone now.   I am married with kids but have always felt alone and different. Why am I telling you this?! Why email you?! I don’t know. You are a stranger who knows what I am feeling somewhat and after last night revelation I had to tell someone 🙂! Thank you,
B. in Ireland

I wrote back and asked her if I could share this, and she wrote:

Thanks for your reply. Yes of course you may use my mail for your blog. I actually feel found judy. It’s actually the single most exciting thing I feel to have happened for me. Struggling all my life with guilt of being on this earth in place of my brother. I don’t blame anyone, I always said, it’s just life , no ones fault. But the pain and unworthy feeling all my life has been crushing. Grateful to you and others for being there on Google , thank you from the bottom of my heart. When others verbalise another’s secret pain it is so liberating. Happy beyond words. Excited for a new chapter in life . Bless you X 

4 thoughts on “So meaningful to me”

  1. This is wonderful Judy! These heartwarming words echo my sentiment in finding your book. It is such an enlightening moment to finally discover there is an explanation for feeling lost and confused. How encouraging to know your book is uniting and helping replacement children everywhere to find themselves and lead a more fulfilling life. I hope B in Ireland finds peace and comfort.

    1. Lizette,
      As a member of our “tribe” you know exactly how this feels amd how wonderful to understand the origins of things we have been struggling with for a long time.

  2. That was great. I feel encouraged by her grateful heart and I know you must feel that way too. When we experience suffering in our lives, it’s good to know we are not alone. By sharing our stories we can hopefully help others along the way.

    1. Thanks Diane. It really makes it all worthwhile to me. And it is amazing how many people come forward with these stories that are so similar in how their lives have been impacted by being replacement children of some kind. It always helps to know we are not alone.

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