Finding Meaning in Quarantine

Is anyone else waking up each morning wondering what is the best way to shelter in place? What am I doing here that makes any difference?

I have gone through stages, sometimes all of them in one day. Depressed over the future. Over not seeing family and friends. Over the state of our government in a true crisis. Sadness over all the loss. Grateful for being well and for the health of my loved ones at this moment, tempered with my own brand of survivor’s guilt. In many ways it all feels very familiar.

One project I have embraced involves working closely with two of my replacement child brethren, Rita Battat Silverman and Kristina Schellinski to create the Replacement Child Forum (replacementchildforum.com).… Read more

Individuation for Adult Replacement Children

Ways of Coming into Being

February 14th & 15th, 2020 at

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London (UK), chaired by Jen Wiener

Kristina Schellinski

Teaching Analyst, C.G. Jung Institute and ISAP, Zürich

Friday 14 Feb 2020

For CLINICIANS

The Clinical challenges of working with adult replacement children in therapy and analysis

At this event, Kristina Schellinski will present the challenges of working with adult replacement children in clinical practice. The replacement child condition as outlined in the column to the right remains often undiagnosed and therefore untreated; but when the condition is rendered conscious, adult replacement children can discover a deeper layer to their existence and unlock their creative potential.

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Something’s Coming, It’s Not All Good

The following is a departure from my usual blog (which I have neglected for too long) in order to give voice to this pithy critique of the newly envisioned West Side Story production on Broadway. Full disclosure, for those who don’t know, the critic is my husband who has definite ideas about this musical production. Also, please note that the opinions expressed are not necessarily mine! We argued all the way home on the train. In a good way.


It’s difficult to know what the creators of West Side Story, currently in previews at the Broadway Theater in New York City, were thinking when they decided on the concept that is the current show.  … Read more

November is #NationalMemoirWritingMonth

Each time I sit down to write a memoir essay or work on my book I have to fight off the Critic Dragon screaming, “Who cares about your piddly life?” If you are a memoir writer, or considering writing a memoir, you may have the same Critic Dragon breathing fire at your keyboard.

Guess what? Even though your life experience may seem unique, many others are going through similar experiences and challenges. Your perspective just may help them get through it.

“But there are already so many books about (abuse, divorce, trauma, recovery—whatever).”

Remember this: No one has written about the experience the way you will. … Read more

Are You Struggling with Your #Memoir Structure?

When should you start thinking about the structure of your memoir? Will an outline help? What are some tips to help you organize the memories of your lifetime into a coherent story that keeps the reader wanting to turn the page?

How do you start thinking about the structure of your memoir?

You already have all the information for your memoir, after all it’s your life! Now, it’s a matter of structuring and including the pieces that will best tell your story in a logical way. Otherwise you may have a jumble of wonderful chapters and scenes that are disconnected. It comes down to what to leave in and what to leave out.… Read more

So meaningful to me

butterfliesYou know, it’s hard to figure out what to share here, and I know self promotion is rampant and I am as tired of it as you are, but sometimes I get emails from people who have found my book, #Replacement Child, and I am so moved I want to tell you all about it. Just this morning, I got this email from a woman in Ireland who found my book referenced online. This kind of email is why I wrote the book, and why I am glad I did.

Hi judy,
I have just ordered your book and can’t wait to read it.Read more

Read my new story in 34th Parallel Magazine

Read my new story, Legacy, at 34th Parallel Magazine’s site. You can also order the print copy on the their website. It’s a pretty cool pub with some outstanding writers. This is my first published piece of fiction, so I am pretty pumped! Thanks 34th Parallel!

Thanks for reading!

 

OMG! #Replacement Child is NY Times Best Seller!

Just heard that Replacement Child is a NY Times Best Seller! Thank you Seal Press! Thank you anyone who has read Replacement Child. Of course, thank you Al, Florence, Linda and Donna.#NYTimesBestseller @SealPress

Surreal day – Replacement Child is #1 on Amazon in overall memoir category

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When a child dies and another is born: response to Yahoo article

Recently, I was interviewed following the news that a family just welcomed a new child into their family after tragically losing their six-year-old in the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting two years ago. You can see the article here:   https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/when-a-child-dies-and-another-is-born-103051055797.html.

The reporter asked me some relevant questions about my own experience, being born after a sibling has died, that was the topic of my memoir, Replacement Child. It was also in relation to a new book coming out in the Spring of 2015, Replacement Children: Personal Journeys, co-written by Dr. Abigail Brenner, a San Francisco Psychiatrist, and Rita Battat Silverman.… Read more