Author: judymandel


Finding Meaning in Quarantine

Is anyone else waking up each morning wondering what is the best way to shelter in place? What am I doing here that makes any difference?

I have gone through stages, sometimes all of them in one day. Depressed over the future. Over not seeing family and friends. Over the state of our government in a true crisis. Sadness over all the loss. Grateful for being well and for the health of my loved ones at this moment, tempered with my own brand of survivor’s guilt. In many ways it all feels very familiar.

One project I have embraced involves working closely with two of my replacement child brethren, Rita Battat Silverman and Kristina Schellinski to create the Replacement Child Forum (… Read more

Individuation for Adult Replacement Children

Ways of Coming into Being

February 14th & 15th, 2020 at

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London (UK), chaired by Jen Wiener

Kristina Schellinski

Teaching Analyst, C.G. Jung Institute and ISAP, Zürich

Friday 14 Feb 2020


The Clinical challenges of working with adult replacement children in therapy and analysis

At this event, Kristina Schellinski will present the challenges of working with adult replacement children in clinical practice. The replacement child condition as outlined in the column to the right remains often undiagnosed and therefore untreated; but when the condition is rendered conscious, adult replacement children can discover a deeper layer to their existence and unlock their creative potential.

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Something’s Coming, It’s Not All Good

The following is a departure from my usual blog (which I have neglected for too long) in order to give voice to this pithy critique of the newly envisioned West Side Story production on Broadway. Full disclosure, for those who don’t know, the critic is my husband who has definite ideas about this musical production. Also, please note that the opinions expressed are not necessarily mine! We argued all the way home on the train. In a good way.

It’s difficult to know what the creators of West Side Story, currently in previews at the Broadway Theater in New York City, were thinking when they decided on the concept that is the current show.  … Read more

November is #NationalMemoirWritingMonth

Each time I sit down to write a memoir essay or work on my book I have to fight off the Critic Dragon screaming, “Who cares about your piddly life?” If you are a memoir writer, or considering writing a memoir, you may have the same Critic Dragon breathing fire at your keyboard.

Guess what? Even though your life experience may seem unique, many others are going through similar experiences and challenges. Your perspective just may help them get through it.

“But there are already so many books about (abuse, divorce, trauma, recovery—whatever).”

Remember this: No one has written about the experience the way you will. … Read more

THE SPITAK QUAKE: Dr. Felix recalls delivering replacement children

The Spitak Quake: Dr. Felix recalls the dark days of delivering
By Gayane Mkrtchyan
ArmeniaNow reporter                                                                                           
Those women, still in reproductive age, who had no more maternity plans, bore children again to replace the ones they had lost. They were not young, still they 


What a Kick

Hard to believe, but I have a student ID again.  It didn’t really hit me until I held my new shiny card in my hand and looked at that awful picture — “I’m a student again.”  I couldn’t help but burst out laughing at the thought.  The 20-somethings waiting in line all turned to look at the crazy lady old enough to be their mother.

The snow got in my way of going to the official orientation and getting my ID, so yesterday I drafted my son Justin to come with me on the four hour excursion.  We managed to travel on the only day I’ve seen the sun shine around here for weeks, so the drive and the ferry ride were actually very pleasant and even fun.… Read more

Travolta Baby Watch–'Healing' Baby

I’ve joined the masses on watch for John Travolta and Kelly Preston’s special delivery, due any day now.  Lately I’ve seen that the expected baby is being referred to as a ‘healing’ baby. I like that title so much better than ‘replacement child.’ Is it too late to change the title of my book? Is it too late to just change my own perspective. How much more empowering to be the ‘healing child!’  Maybe a sequel?

Pretending I'm Dead

The other day I was in my local natural health food/vitamin shop—which I love–and I was explaining to my now friend who owns the shop that I was worried to death about my only son travelling across America and camping out in parts unknown.  I told her I was afraid he would take up with strangers, meet with tornadoes and hurricanes, and possibly fall down a volcanoe.  She said she had the same feelings when her two daughters would go off on adventures and she would have no control over their safety.

“I just pretend I’m dead,” she told me.  “If I were dead, they would do what they are going to do and I would have no power anyway–so I just pretend I’m dead.”… Read more

Hidden Reasons for Exploding #Relationships

Have you ever wondered why everything you do seems to disappoint someone? Or why you keep choosing the same kind of wrong person to be in a relationship with? How about why you are sometimes triggered into an emotional reaction that seems over the top?

At one time or another in my life, I answered yes to all of the above.  After writing Replacement Child, which entailed no small amount of soul searching and honest self-evaluation, I would suggest that you might want to look farther into your past–and your family history–than most people ever do.  And, I’m talking about even with most professional counselors. … Read more


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